Child's Needs

Children have needs and when those needs are not met children use mistaken approaches to try to fulfill their needs. But there are parental responses that can fill those needs as well.

Mistaken Approach	Need	Parental Responses
Undue Attention seeking	Contact/Belonging	Offer Contact Freely Teach them how to belong by contributing
Power struggles Rebellion	Power	The ability to respond (response-ability) Choices + consequences
Revenge	Protection	Assertiveness + forgiveness
Undue avoidance Procrastination	Withdrawal	Take a break
Risk Taking	Challenges	Get involved in skill building

Taken from Michael Popkin's approach, "Active Parenting"